If you are planning to have a divorce, the family lawyers at PKWA law share the five common divorce mistakes to avoid. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can help your divorce lawyer to achieve a quick, amicable and fair settlement.
5 MOST COMMON DIVORCE MISTAKES TO AVOID
While every divorce situation is different, the fact remains that there is a right way and a wrong way to go about a divorce. By avoiding the most common pitfalls, you can make your divorce case as painless as possible.
If you are planning to have a divorce, here are five common mistakes to avoid. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can put your children first and move on with your life as smoothly as possible.
1. Fighting for custody just to hurt the other spouse
Some spouses think that ‘winning’ custodyof their children is like winning a trophy during a divorce. However, winning custody of children should not be about winning or losing; it’s about creating the best parenting outcomes for your children. This is why the Family Court Judges in Singapore always stress the importance of co-parenting in the children’s lives.
Some parents use their kids as pawns during divorce. Whether they’re used in an attempt to hurt the other parent or to get the upper hand, it’s wrong because your children should be protected during and after divorce. There is ample research to show that children can be emotionally and psychologically damaged if parents use them as tools in a divorce.
2. Failing to produce accurate financial information
Apart from children, the issue of finances play a huge role in every divorce and is one of the most important issues in every divorcing couple’s minds. Some divorce parties try to hide the true financial picture such as not disclosing bank accounts, insurance policies or bonuses.
In order for things to go as smoothly as possible, it’s critical that both husband and wife are honest and produce true financial information. This is to assist the lawyers and the court to decide on what is a fair and equitable division of assets and what is a reasonable amount of maintenance that should be paid.
Failure to be honest with financial information may be dealt with severely by the court. The courts may draw an adverse inference against the party who has not made full and frank disclosures.
3. Allowing emotions to rule over logic
During a divorce, it’s tough to keep your emotions out of the decisions you make. It’s easier said than done, but you must see the bigger picture and make good solid decisions based on logic, not based on the anger and hurt that you may be feeling. Making a decision based on anger will usually result in a bad and regrettable outcome.
4. Getting an angry divorce lawyer
The one thing you don’t need in a divorce case is to hire a lawyer who is using your hurt and anger to turn the divorce into an all out battle in court.
Look instead for a divorce lawyer who takes a calm approach to your case. At PKWA Law, we like to say that clients should engage a divorce lawyer who encourages settlements, not arguments.
Lawyers who are angry, emotional and who stirs you to battle your spouse will likely meekly settle at the last moment – leaving you with a huge legal bill and without the end result that they had initially promised.
The best divorce lawyers are those who are calm, rational and who are constantly looking out to help you to close the case quickly, amicably and with a fair outcome.
5. Forgetting to change your Will
One of the most common mistakes is not changing your wills or trusts after your divorce.
If you don’t, then at your death, your assets could be distributed in ways that you neither expect nor want – including to your ex-spouse. Or, you could have forgotten that you had named your ex spouse as an executor and upon your death, your ex spouse is the person who controls your estate.
So, if you are thinking of divorce, you should always revoke your old will and make a new will so that your beneficiaries will be the people you want to benefit.
If you had never made a will, you should also consider making one once you have decided to go ahead with the divorce.
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